Father’s Day
He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly. Proverbs 13:24
Godly discipline—the how’s, when’s, and how much are probably debated more often than any other aspect of parenting. The Bible certainly seems to endorse corporal punishment, but society often frowns on the same. What are parents and especially fathers to do when it comes to disciplining their children?
These are issues that ought to be discussed by husbands and wives before assuming the responsibility of raising children. Parents should, whenever possible, seek agreement on how to discipline, when to discipline, and the means of discipline. Since children within the same family can be very different, it is wise to be ready to adjust any agreed upon procedures.
Godly discipline, first, is carried out in love for children, not to vent parental anger. It recognizes that children have a sin-problem just like all people…parents included. It recognizes that sin will be a part of any child’s life and will have to be corrected. But the goal should always be the good of the child and the benefit that the discipline will bring for that child’s future life and relationships.
Godly discipline, second, is to be done promptly, as directed in Scripture, so that bad habits do not take root in a child’s life. When fathers are inconsistent and irregular in their discipline, children become confused and frustrated. Just as a fence around a yard serves to protect children from dangers outside, prompt and consistent discipline serves to help children feel safe and settled.
Godly discipline, third, will involve discipling a child’s mind and heart. Administering discipline or punishment for a child does not end with the disciplinary act. Fathers must sit down with their children afterwards and share with them why the disciplinary action was taken and what ends are desired. Children must be led to recognize the importance of their relationship with God and their obedience before God. Their future success and blessing depend upon God’s grace and good will, along with their faithfulness before Him.
Dear heavenly Father, grant all fathers wisdom as they seek to discipline their children in good and godly ways. Amen.